Francis “Frank” Nephew

Frank Nephew passed away in Gaylord surrounded by his loving family on Sunday, April 29, 2018, at the age of 88.  Francis Roy Alfred Nephew was born August 18, 1929 in Lovells, Michigan.  He graduated in 1947 from Gaylord High School, where he was a mediocre student and an exceptional athlete.  He was the quarterback of the football team, a starting guard on the basketball team, and a shortstop and catcher on the baseball team.  It is rumored that he ran in a track meet and entered a tennis tournament where he won medals in both events. In 1949 he married Joan Carol Reinhardt, a beloved only child from Boyne City, Michigan, whose father reassured her she could always come home if the marriage didn’t work out.  As a young man, he bought a book on how to box, and subsequently won the Northern Michigan Golden Gloves boxing tournament in the Lightweight Division.  His favorite sport was baseball and he played semi-pro baseball in Detroit.  He had a tryout for a minor league team and claimed his only shortfall was that he needed a stronger arm.  Within 15 minutes of being introduced to one of his future sons-in law, he felt it necessary to get on the floor to demonstrate how to do a proper “hook slide.”

Frank always wanted to be an entrepreneur, and his first business was the Log Mark Lounge in Detroit in 1964, followed by the Rumble Seat Lounge in 1968 – both buildings he built himself from the ground up.  His relationship with Mackinac Island began in 1953 when he built the Tastee Freeze building for his high school friend Bob Benser.  In 1966 Frank moved his family to Mackinac Island to manage The Pickle Barrel Restaurant.  He subsequently bought the building next to McNally Cottage in 1969 (currently The Main Street Inn and Suites) and in 1970 the Joann’s Fudge and Mighty Mac Restaurant building.  In the 1980’s, with Bob Benser, he purchased what is now The Lilac Tree Suites and Spa and the Chippewa Hotel Waterfront.  You could not walk with Frank down the street without several people rushing over to greet him. He was an integral and fiercely devoted part of his community and spent his entire life growing the places he loved.  If you visited him in his office in his later years, he was almost always eating ice cream and watching baseball.

Frank’s life was never ordinary – in fact it was always extraordinary.  When his parents moved from Northern Michigan to the Detroit area to look for work in the mid 1940’s, Frank decided to live with an aunt and attend school in Gaylord.  By the 11th grade, he lived on his own in an apartment in Gaylord, and supported himself by working multiple jobs after school and sports practice. He was always an optimist, a generous friend, and a devoted husband and father.  Frank loved and cherished Joan from the moment he met her.  Together they built a beautiful life  – one that was, like Frank’s famous fudge shop named after Joan, filled with candy and love and happiness.  When going through his notes recently, we found a piece of paper that had several short thoughts written down that he kept for inspiration: “handle money well” – “make a deal” – “live the same with money as you did without” – “don’t ever give up” – “have confidence” – “keep dreams alive.”

One of his grandchildren wrote a wonderful note to the rest of the family which sums up who Frank was and how much his family loved him.

“Grandpa was extraordinary. Truly. Not every good person has a great life. Not every successful person has love and happiness. Not every successful man (and in fact very few) is gracious and generous. Not every charismatic and hardworking person figures out how to direct those talents effectively. Somehow Grandpa had all of these things and more: he had a loving partnership with his wife, he had children and grandchildren he got to know for much longer than most, he moved and shook his way to an incredible amount of success, he got to feel the validation and fulfillment of creating and owning his own business, and was, without a doubt, the most generous person that I have ever met or will ever meet. His success never restricted him, but instead, he used it to be an even better person and he did so consciously. That all sounds like a cliché because what I just described is the ideal life by any standards – and grandpa actually lived it. He is a true inspiration to me.

As we feel sadness, I think we should all also feel admiration and respect as we reflect over his life. I will remember his drive and his generosity. I will remember the magic chocolate kisses he created. I will remember the “hornswoggles” and the pretend face painting and how much he enjoyed engaging with us throughout every age. I will remember all the advice he gave us (the good and the paranoid). And I will remember how the most important thing to him was always creating a better life and more happiness for those he loved. I know you will all remember him the same way.”

Another grandchild added, “He built an incredible business that we all feel so emotionally connected to. It defines our childhood. But beyond that, he built such an amazing family. We are so much closer than most, and it is because we came from an incredibly strong foundation. A little bit of him is in all of us. And that should make us all feel pretty special.”

Frank is survived by his wife of 69 years, Joan Nephew, and their children Nancy Porter, Steven Nephew, Cheryl (Robert) Jaquiss, and Dawn (Nir) Lehrer; his grandchildren Sarah Porter (Johnny Morris), William (Simone) Jaquiss, Caroline Jaquiss (Jack Kearney), Annie Porter (Keegan Hitz), Audrey Jaquiss, Danielle Lehrer, and Ben Lehrer; his sister Lorna Ferrett; and many cousins, nieces, nephews, as well as friends too numerous to count.

He was preceded in death by his brother Lovell Monnie Nephew and his son-in-law Armin Porter.

A memorial service will be held on June 19, 2018 at Ste. Anne Catholic Church on Mackinac Island at 11 AM with a luncheon to follow.

In lieu of flowers, donations can be made in his honor to the Mackinac Island Community Foundation, P.O. Box 1933, Mackinac Island, Michigan 49757 or the Hospice of Michigan Gaylord Branch, 830 S. Otsego, Gaylord, Michigan 49735.

Arrangements were entrusted to Nelson Funeral Home and Cremation Service, PO Box 1548, Gaylord, MI 49734.

19 Comments

  1. Jill (Warren) Washburn April 29, 2018 at 8:38 pm - Reply

    My condolence to the Nephew family, we knew him back when we were in school and he was always so polite and asked us kids how we were doing…RIP Frank.

  2. Nancy Forcier April 30, 2018 at 10:47 am - Reply

    Wow– what a life! Joan, our love goes out to you and your whole family. Please know that we are holding you in our hearts and will see you soon. God bless you all. Nancy Forcier

  3. Bill Rolinski April 30, 2018 at 12:59 pm - Reply

    Frank was one of the first to greet me when I returned to Gaylord from school. He had an infectious smile, a great wit and a true business sense. He supported our community in many ways and always made it a point to be anonymous. He will be sorely missed. Most will remember Frank for his fudge, I will remember him for his heart. Best to the Nephew family.

  4. Marcy Quay-Dye April 30, 2018 at 1:28 pm - Reply

    On behalf of the Quay family, Our thoughts and prayers to you all. Frank was a great human being… Very thoughtful… He will truly be missed by many… I have heard many stories of Frank, Bob B. and my father Dale back in the their high school days.

  5. Patti and Gary Lingaur April 30, 2018 at 4:31 pm - Reply

    Frank and Joan were among the first people that we met when we moved to Gaylord in 1986. They helped us out by selling us a lot to build on at a very fair price as Gary had just graduated from medical school and we were looking at 10 years of loan repayment. They wanted to help us out. They also treated us to their delicious fudge when Gary was a volunteer doctor on the island. They were and are gracious and kind people. Frank will be missed.

  6. Stan and Gladys Solokis April 30, 2018 at 7:53 pm - Reply

    Frank was one of the first friends Stan had when we moved to Gaylord, they played on a basketball team every week. They would still talk about getting some of the old members and play again…maybe they still will. The Nephew family is special and will be in our prayers.

  7. Jim and Barb Lappan May 1, 2018 at 7:11 am - Reply

    Our thoughts and prayers to all in the Nephew family.

  8. Cindy Grocock FitzGerald May 1, 2018 at 8:15 am - Reply

    Such a great tribute to a great man. I am hoping you all can fill the empty spot he has left behind with all of the sweet memories, because it sounds like there were many! Love to you all.

  9. Lesa Bachman May 1, 2018 at 5:33 pm - Reply

    On behalf of the Bachman Family, I am sending love, peace and prayers to the Nephew Family. There are many good memories of Frank with my Dad, Dale Quay, Bob Benser, Bob McKillop, and Bob Doumas. Frank was a kind, loving person and we will miss him. Kepping you all in our thoughts and prayers.

  10. Karen Billman May 1, 2018 at 6:27 pm - Reply

    Dear Joan,
    Your dear husband was one of the most wonderful people I have ever met. You both treated my family with generosity and love. His friendship with my father goes back to high school and minor league baseball. They enjoyed telling stories about those years together.
    Christmas Eve always found Frank at my parents door with a bottle of good whiskey. His friendship was true.
    You were one of the best Frank…
    Al and Barb Mackowiak and children, Karen, Jayne, Ellen and our beloved Chris, who is with Frank in heaven.

  11. Wayne & Judy Miller May 1, 2018 at 11:39 pm - Reply

    We have fond memories of Frank and Joan. Always a friendly smile and conversation. Frank will be missed. Frank and Joan will be in our prayers.

  12. Marge Marie Andress Bekins May 2, 2018 at 1:30 am - Reply

    Prayers to the family. I never got to meet him, but I’ve heard alot about him when on the island visiting my family. May the creator help you all an give you strength through this difficult time.

  13. Jim and Bev Deitering Wattson May 2, 2018 at 12:16 pm - Reply

    Love and prayers to the Nephew family. We were sad at the news of Franks passing. We go back a long ways.Late 40’s was a start when I met him. He was always kind and smiling no matter who he met. We will continue to remember the family in our prayers. Jim & Beverley Wattson (Deitering)

  14. Mark Courtade May 3, 2018 at 1:23 pm - Reply

    What a wonderful man. I worked at the Pickle Barrel in 1970, 71 and 72. He helped me set up a bank savings account on the Island and told me that, if nothing else, the bank deposit book could become a souvenir. I still have it. He also had a policy set up that if you worked the entire summer, he rebated you some weekly cash so that you would be sure to go home with some money from your summer job and didn’t spend it all on goofy “Fudgie” stuff. Both Frank and Joan were beloved by the kids he hired for the summer. Great memories; a great family.

  15. lollipoplins May 6, 2018 at 7:21 pm - Reply

    May fond memories of your father bring you comfort during this difficult time.
    Offering you and your family our deepest and most sincere condolences and may the soul of your father rest in peace.

    Love from the Paul Swanson Family

  16. Barbara Walker May 8, 2018 at 7:27 am - Reply

    My family all had wonderful memories of Frank. My thoughts and prayers are with you all at this time. Sincerely, Barbara Dixon Walker

  17. Pam Miller Placek June 20, 2018 at 12:29 pm - Reply

    I also worked for Frank at the Pickle Barrel, the sub shop, the canndle shop and the movie theater. He truly was a huge influence on my life. He taught me many things in the three summers I worked for him. Never did I visit the island without saying hello and thank you to Nifty….as we all lovingly nicknamed him.
    Again thank you Mr. And Mrs. Nephew with respect, love and admiration. Pam Miller

  18. Scott Zylstra July 13, 2018 at 11:28 pm - Reply

    I worked summers at the Chippewa Hotel from 1988-1992. Frank was always polite to me, even though I was just a restaurant employee. He would try the soup every afternoon – to make sure it was good I’m sure. Then he might have dinner with the family and enjoy a glass of Dewars. I visited a few years ago, 25 years after leaving the island to “go and get a real job”. Cycling past his house I stopped to say hello. Wouldn’t you know it, he said, “hey, Scotty, where ya been?” It had been 25 years! He still remembered me – it made my day! What a guy. Super nice, hard working and inspirational. A true Mackinac legand. RIP Mr. Nephew.

  19. Kathleen Dobrzelewski Chau September 3, 2018 at 10:04 pm - Reply

    My sympathy and prayers to your family. What a lovely obituary, written to commemorate such a giving person!

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